I never understood therapy shopping until now.
Cause my guy going to the sands of the Stan sure gave me the urge to run out and find something I liked that I could actually keep hold of; some little delight that would stay with me. Who knew something so small as a few new nail polishes or a new bright lipstick or lil Tardis earrings could ease the feeling of loss. But it does. Just a tiny bit. Just enough. And that will have to do.
Long Distance Relationships As Demonstrated By David Tennant
How my family thinks I feel.
How my friends think I feel.
How I act like I feel.
How I wish I felt.
How I really feel.
Nothing quite like Skype to remind yourself how much you hate the distance.
I’ve had a LOT of experience with long distance relationships. I’m on my 5th and last one because I’ve found the man I’m going to marry. When he’s not deployed he’s living a few states away. Luckily I’ve unlocked the secret of maintaining sanity and happiness throughout these frustrating times in 7 steps.
Step 1. Be abso-floggin-lutly sure he’s the one worth waiting for. This will give you the peace of mind not to second guess your decision when times are tough.
Step 2. Pick up some new hobbies. Preferably ones that require intense brainwork so it’s impossible to daydream as you do them.
Step 3. Don’t wallow in self pity. The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself the more time you waste not making improvements on literally anything.
Step 4. When you go out to have fun, try not to hang out with couples, don’t go where people are trying to score dates and don’t pick activities that make you wish your man was there to actually make it fun. Do all those things he wouldn’t want to take part in anyway.
Step 5. Learn to hold on loosely. To do this you have to be a strong individual who doesn’t depend on anyone for happiness or purpose in life. Learn to generate you’re own joy through your passions.
Step 6. This is optional, but fun. Find fictional relationships to divert your attention to or immerse yourself in your favorite fandom. Having something to love on that no one can take away from you is always nice.
Step 7. Lastly, as much as possible, think of your time apart as your chance to better yourself. To build yourself up into a stronger, cleverer and more improved version of yourself. That way, if something in your relationship does go horribly wrong, you’re by no means left with nothing.
Follow these steps and you WILL feel better. Promise.